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One of the things that you’ll first notice when you join AmericanSingles.com is its easy registration interface and process. To sign up as a member, either it be a free or paid membership, initially, all what’s required is for you to choose: a user name and a password, your e-mail address along with your date-of-birth. There is also 7 multiple choice questions about yourself that you are required to answer, as well as you writing a short one to two line introduction of yourself… and that’s it! After registration, you’ll be able to access the entire site and you can immediately begin searching for other members in your local area, ASAP! Among the various other online dating sites out there, AmericanSingles.com has to be one of the most user friendly and easiest registration process available. Once in, you will also notice how friendly it is to navigate inside the entire AmericanSingles.com site. There are no annoying banner ads or other types of advertisements. The layout is extremely clean and tidy, and the site is very newbie friendly. American Singles.com comes with a lot of useful and handy features to make life easier for you. One feature is the “Click” feature, which simply asks you if you would “click” with another members profile based just on his or her photos. If you choose ‘Yes’, and the other member is also interested in ‘clicking’ with you, then that could very well be the start of one beautiful friendship. There is also the “Flirt” feature, where you are able to send a pre-written one liner to a potential love match. You can say something like, “I was looking for love, and stumbled up on your photo. Ready to meet?” or something less direct! There are around 50 pre-written one liners for you to choose from, divided into different categories. Although, AmericanSingles.com offers all the premium features to be an excellent dating site, it doesn’t quite rank on top of our list based on the following reasons… While you are a free member, you can not respond to any e-mails that a registered premium member sends you. (But, most other sites don’t either). Your only available response is that you can ‘Flirt’ back with your admirer and send them one of those fabulous pre-written one-liners. Again, this is quite commons amongst other dating sites at the ‘Free Members’ level. Also, you won’t be able to tell, just by looking at the other member profiles, which ones are the free members or which ones are premium members. There is also no keyword search function available. Other online dating sites will allow you to search for member profiles based on any keywords that you choose. This is an excellent way of finding other members who may have the same interests as you do. But again, most other dating sites don’t have this feature either. One other thing that may be considered a nuisance is that if you click on another member’s profile, it will pop up in a new window. This new window popup showing the profile cannot be re-sized, so based on your monitor settings, you may not be able to fit the profile in the window of your screen, forcing you to scroll left to right or up and down to read the page. One final thing is that AmericanSingles.com does not presently offer an online web-ezine offering articles, tips or other member stories and experiences, that may be available on other dating sites. Whether this is a disadvantage or not will be totally dependent on your personal preferences, as there are some who love the social interaction, while others don’t really care. But all in all, AmericanSingles.com as mentioned has a great, easy to navigate layout. It has an massive and growing database of over 7.5 million members, and it’s price is very competitive. If you decide to sign-up for the 5-month (Premium) membership plan, you’ll not only get your membership for just $16.99 per month, you’ll also get the option to renew the membership at the same low rate while also qualifying for the AmericanSingles.com’s Five Month Promise… which is: American Singles will give you Five (5) additional months free if you don’t find someone during the initial first five months! Click the link below and use the fast registration process to sign-up for your Free membership to AmericanSingles.com and start dating today… Highlights of AmericanSingles.com: * Over 7.5 million registered members and growing |
When it comes down to dating someone for the first time, it becomes paramount to convey yourself adequately, by sending out your personality signals to the interested party. This has to be done precisely, transferring who and what type of person you are, and what comprises you. However, when trying to doing this within the setting of a nightclub or a bar, is usually easier said than done. It’s difficult to demonstrate your intelligence or wit when you have to say… scream across in someone elses ear, in order to be heard over the thumping music and crowd noise. Also, the small window you have to demonstrate exactly who you are is severely limited; as if you fail to grab the immediate interest of that other person fairly quickly, the chances of starting a conversation or anything meaningful with them become slim to none. Setting Up Your Online Profile So what then, you’re wondering constitutes of a “successful and attractive” online profile? There are several factors that will determine whether someone actually takes the time to read through your personal profile or not. As mentioned, it’s obviously important to convey the type of person you really are within your profile. The last thing that your admirer wants is to be unpleasantly surprised and misled, when the first initial conversations may reveal you to be nothing like who you described in your profile. Tell the truth, tell about your passions and your interests. Although you may eliminate some viewers of your profile, the ones that actually take the time to read it through will be genuinely intrigued by you, and thus more than likely to contact you. As with anything else in life, intrigue and mystery remains a vitally important component of romance. So try not to answer every question about yourself, in the same context of your online profile; you would want your potential mates interest piqued, not sated. If that person learns all there is to know about you based on reading your three-page profile, then they are less than likely to feel compelled to communicate or contact you. On the other hand, a veiled question portraying intrigue in your profile, may be the key to spark an inquisitive e-mail. Finally, always include an updated photo of yourself in your online profile, if at all possible. Physical attraction will be and always forever remains a vital component of dating, whether it be online or offline dating. There is a lot of people who will not bother to invest too much time reading an online profile without knowing what that person looks like. In fact, most people will filter out profiles that doesn’t include pics, when they browse online dating sites. So including a picture with your profile should ultimately increase the chances of success. |
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The iFriends.com site was launched on February 14th, 1998, which of course is Valentine’s Day, basically as a video-chat, online dating and matchmaking service. This site also offers an online ‘real-time’ chat community feature for the web-cam enthusiasts crowd. iFriends.com has rapidly evolved into a huge substantial community who has diverse interests and niche content categories. The site currently has over twelve (12) million registered members and more than 200,000 registered video “chat-hosts”. The membership database is diverse as they come from over 100 different countries worldwide. Once you join for free and log on to the site, you can then use the search function if you are interested in finding a date who lives near by. As there is a lot of information on the page, look on the upper right hand corner and you will see the search area. Once you click on it, you can then begin to browse for live or archived cams of other guys or gals, or couples who are currently looking for someone who they can chat live with, or you can just watch them on their live webcam. They also have an ‘Adult’ area that you can join for a small fee, for what some may consider a bit of ‘risque’ browsing, which gives you two options of membership… the Elite Group or the Club VIP. When you join the Elite membership, you will be able to watch several cams at once. iFriends.com offers you detailed instructions on how you can be a chat-host, which basically works the same way if you are a member on any other online dating site, the only difference is that they don’t involve cameras. Here Is A Quote From The iFriends.com’s Site: iFriends.com offers a vast library of down-loadable, vivid streaming high quality HDTV movies, from the worlds largest, and most diverse collection of beautiful as well as entertaining web-cam stars on the planet. iFriends also offers you as a member the largest and the highest quality video library in the entire world, with more than 1 million hours of high quality, high end streaming video, which now include true 720p High Definition video that’s guaranteed to be three times more realistic and vivid than DVD-quality videos. Highlights Of iFriends.com: * View other members online photos
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The fear of commitment, or getting cold feet, scientifically, is actually a type of phobia. It is commonly known as the ‘commitment phobia’, which refers to someone who is afraid of being committed into any significant, deep ‘one on one’ relationships. This may also relate to tasks, long-term projects and responsibilities.
Have you ever known anyone, or thought of a person you know who had a fear of commitment? Maybe you currently have a few friends who you suspect have symptoms of this type of phobia. Most, which is probably to no ones surprise, who exhibit deep fears of commitment are actually men. Those with commitment issues have difficulty in deciding on simple things, such as making easy decisions when given a choice. For instance, they may find it hard to choose what to eat off a menu when they are dining out in a restaurant, or have a hard time choosing between say, two good movies, or even on what they should wear on certain days. And not surprisingly, most who show these symptoms have never been in a serious relationship, most are or are nearing their 30’s, which is an ideal perfect marrying age for most men.
Let me tell you about someone we used to know, his name was Patrick. Patrick was a close friend growing up and he is presently still a bachelor, who has a great job and career and makes good money. Women go in and out of his life on a regular basis, as some may consider him handsome. But none of these acquaintances seems to really stick around, even the ones who you would think has good potential. He is a perfect profile for someone who displays a fear of commitment. But he will not admit or accept it, which is in fact another ‘tell-tale’, characteristic of someone who has a fear of commitment. Here is a conversation we once had about this issue. So here it is:
Me: “Have you ever had or been in a serious relationship before?
Patrick: “No”
Me: “So why not?”
Patrick: “It’s because I don’t think I’m ready yet.”
Me: “What are some of the things that makes you think you’re not ready?
He shrugged his shoulders and paused for a few minutes.
Patrick: “It’s probably because I’m afraid to commit to one woman, and I don’t really want to get married at this time. I’m afraid I may not handle the responsibilities associated with being a good father and a good husband at the same time.”
Me: “Then you’re someone who is afraid or has a fear of commitment.”
Patrick: “Who me? No, I don’t really think so…”
Having the fear of commitment makes it difficult for you to decide on what you need or is good for you, especially if your future is at stake. So when having a fear of commitment, it’s not healthy at all. Fear of commitment can hold you back since it’s entrusting itself to a procedure on what life has to offer, and we should be able to make the most of the opportunities that come our way.
The actual fear of commitment can be triggered by various causes. Fear of commitment most likely starts from childhood, where the person suffered from some type of traumatic experience, such as the separation of parents, divorce or even death. Fear of commitment can also be from poor role models in which the person may have witnessed dysfunctional or offensive relationships. The worst is when the person may have also been a victim of it. These experiences later in life, may have a great impact on the person’s future decision making abilities and therefore the cause of their development, contributing to their fear of commitment.
The Fear of Commitment can be overcome by several different methods. The most common method is by the use of hypnosis or hypnotherapy. So if you know someone, or have friends, or think you may have the fear of commitment yourself, there is help out there.
As with other dating sites, when you initially join MatchMaker, you will be required to complete a fairly extensive ‘personality profile’ questionnaire, which can take you up to an hour to complete, this depending on how much thought you put into the detailed questions. The questionnaire has a number of multiple choice questions along with 20 essay-type of questions as well. The essay questions are optional, but keep in mind that the more detail and thought that you put in your profile, the more interest and accuracy you’ll get from other members. So its recommended that you spend the additional time on the essay questions. This is your chance to make a great first impression after all! You are able to update your profile at any time upon joining. Once you decide to join MatchMaker.com, you’ll immediately be able to search for other members, view their profiles who live in your immediate area, as well as view the photos a member has posted or listen to their voice greeting as well. As a free member, you’ll be able to access every feature of the site, as well as replying to any emails you may receive. The email feature on a lot of other major dating sites is not available, as most require you to upgrade to paid membership status. This you will find is a great feature as if someone searches for and finds your profile, and you happen to have an eye-catching or a humorous profile, provided your admirer is a premium member, they can email you, which you can reply back for free! However, if that person is not a premium member, they will be required to upgrade to a premium member, just to make contact with you. So if you post your profile, which others find attractive, and particularly if you happen to be female, you could function as an active member of the MatchMaker.com community without upgrading to a premium membership! Another great feature offered by MatchMaker is the ability to perform detailed keyword searches on other members’ profiles. So say you are interested in dogs or horses, you can then do a keyword search on “dogs” or “horses” and see which member profiles contain these words. This can be an excellent way to get to know other members with similar hobbies or interests, and is not a feature available on most other dating sites. The majority of other sites just allows you to perform searches on other members based just on geographical location or age and gender. MatchMaker doesn’t allow you to do this, unless you sign up as a free member and register your email address. One way we have found how you can view other members who live in your area, however, is by looking at the MatchMakers ’sitemap’ on their homepage and click the “Site” link to a page that allows you to view other singles by state or province, (in the US and Canada). The “Map” link leads you to a page where you can view other singles by major cities! You can then filter their profiles by gender, but not by age. This will give you an idea of who’s online in your immediate area, all this even before you sign-up as a free member! MatchMaker has all the ‘bells and whistles’ that you’d expect from any other major dating site, as well as a few more features that you wouldn’t expect to find. It has an active diverse community of members, where you can communicate via email, (IM) instant messenger, or in one of the various chat rooms available. While MatchMakers 8 million plus members is impressive, and is one of the larger sites out there, it still pales into comparison with one of the largest, most established sites available, Match.com, who has a staggering 25 million plus members. A database of that size gives you a great chance of finding a date in your area, and you just need to find ‘one’ date right? So why not sign up as a member to both MatchMaker.com and Match.com, as both are free - and enhance your success? Click the link below to sign up with MatchMaker.com… Highlights of MatchMaker.com: * Has over 8+ million registered members |
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So if you are a married male or female, and looking for a bit of extra curricular ‘hanky panky’, as well as the fun and excitement of doing the ‘horizontal dance’ on the side with someone you don’t know, then AshleyMadison.com may be the perfect site for you. For this reason, this site, although it may not have the largest membership database when compared to the other dating sites that we’ve reviewed, many of the users report a high success rate on hooking up, as the members are all looking for the same thing, which is a ‘quickie’. There is also great gender balance on this site as well, so it’s not male dominated as you would expect on this type of theme. Some of the member user reviews on their website are great, as discretion is obviously of key importance. Ashley Madison has carved of a deep yet unique niche in the online dating site arena, which is initially free to join to look around. The AshleyMadison.com site is also a bit unique in how it handles it’s premium payment system for members. The site has a “credits” based program, where there is no set expiration date on your membership. You are and remain a ‘Premium Member’, as long as you keep your ‘credits’ up to date. What happens is that you pay based on how much you use the site. For example: If you say “Instant Message’ (IM) others members for an hour a day, your credits of 1,000 points, which costs $249, won’t last very long (approximately around 20 days or so). eMailing other members however, is a lot more reasonable, at a cost of $5 per user for essentially unlimited mail. Another option is you can always exchange cellphone numbers (though of course given the nature of this site, this is not really that discreet!). Giving out racy “Ashley Gifts” can help in spicing up online conversations and also encourages another member to make your online potential acquaintance a reality, though these can get rather expensive, considering you lose credits for every action. Although there is no real support for the web-cam or audio chat, Ashley Madison does however uses less online erotic chat, but rather aims more at creating an opportunity to begin a genuine, physical affair. Other useful features include the ability to leave feedback on other members, so that other users viewing their profile can decide, based on the “reviews”, whether if they want to spend their ‘credits’ on striking up a conversation or not. There is also a “panic button” feature where members can simply click a button, so they will be instantly redirected to a innocent looking home improvement site! This is obviously a safety precaution feature, if anyone looks over your shoulder and for other prying eyes who may look at your screen. The site also offers a lot of advice that you can use regarding how to conduct and manage a “successful affair”, as well as how to remove all traces of AshleyMadison.com from your computer when your done! If you run across your significant other, who is also a member of the site, well then sorry, can’t help you there. Searching through the now over 3.5 million members on AshleyMadison.com, is made easy by an extensive search function, as there always seems to be a great number of local users online at any one time! The site works perfectly for its intended niche target audience, but for those singles who are looking for that long term relationship, perhaps should look elsewhere on some of the other dating sites. Its also a shame AshleyMadison doesn’t just throw in a few free credits as a bonus for new members, so they can try it out and test a few of the site’s features. Regardless, this unique site is perfect for those married folk who are seeking extra-marital affairs, and if that happens to be you, it’s well worth giving it a try. Click the link below to visit AshleyMadison.com, sign-up for free today… Highlights Of Ashley Madison: * Ashley Madison only caters to married men and women who are looking for an affair |
After immense soul searching, self analysis and self improvement programs to improve her emotional and spiritual self for a number of years, Katherine, now 32 years old, felt that she was finally ready for a new relationship. So she decide to join an online dating service and promptly met Steven, who seemed like he was good to be true. He was warm, intelligent, compassionate and also on a similar personal and spiritual growth path. Steven, who was 35, was also successful and available! Now Katherine’s past fears, that she would never meet someone again, suddenly turned into fear of being in a new relationship. Katherine had taught herself on how to take loving care of herself, when she was alone by herself or with close friends, but suddenly doing this with a man was another matter. Previously, she had never really actually learned to take care of herself in any of her past relationships, and she was worried that she would maybe let herself down again. Katherine needed some guidelines regarding actions that she could take for herself as she began to explore her new relationship with Steven, and she queried of what these loving actions may be. So listed here are some ‘loving-actions’ that you can take when first exploring a new relationship: 2. Make a firm decision and promise with yourself before getting together with another person, that you are willing to lose that person rather than losing yourself. Make sure you make a conscious decision NOT to make the other person’s needs, wants and feelings be more important than your own. 3. Stay firm on your own truth and beliefs. Do NOT let the other person talk or sway you away from what feels good and right for you. 4. Be willing to take full 100% accountability and responsibility for you behaving in a worthy, safe and powerful way. Also be willing to be who you are rather than trying to impress others. Make a conscious effort and decision with the firm integrity of who you really are. That is a lot more important than getting the other person’s approval. 5. Do NOT dismiss or disregard things (big or small) that you find that’s difficult, intolerable or unacceptable. If you find something that was unacceptable in a previous relationship, the chances are that those things are not going to get any better. Never convince yourself that, since there are so many good qualities about this person, you can overlook the other problems or get that person to change. This NEVER hardly works! Fears of rejection can be discovered and emerge early in any relationship. Most people are just terrified of doing something wrong and thus being rejected, as they make the other person responsible for their feelings of worth. The real fear of rejection can lead a person to give themselves up to the other person, surrendering oneself and being consumed or controlled by the other person. Then fears of loss will often surface quickly and people will find themselves to giving in to their efforts to protect themselves from their fears. If you allow fear to dictate you, you’ll likely end up in an unsatisfying relationship. The most important thing in a new relationship is: LET LOVE BE THE GUIDE, NOT FEAR. This requires that you need to learn about what’s most loving to YOU – what is your best quality – rather than trying to avoid not being controlled or rejected by the other person. 6. Keep asking your inner self and wisdom, “So what is the most loving action toward myself right now? What’s in my highest good right now?” If you keep asking this question to yourself, you’ll find your way through exploring that new relationship without losing yourself and without getting hurt by the other person. |
As mentioned, PerfectMatch is distinctive from almost every other online dating site, as it won’t allow you to search their members’ database. This is the case whether you are a free member or a paid member. Okay, well it’s not that unique as eHarmony.com and Chemistry.com both use a similar matchmaking system. PerfectMatch prefers to do the searching, as well as the matchmaking for you. When you first join PerfectMatch, you will be required to complete a rather lengthy personal profile questionnaire. This questionnaire is not your typical ‘quickie’… What is your favorite color? type of questionnaire that’s required from the other dating sites. This one happens to be long, well, very long! Depending on the amount of time and thought that you put into each question, this questionnaire can take you anywhere from 1 to 2 hours to complete, so grab a comfy chair, a cup of tea and make sure you answer the questions as accurately as possible. After all, your love life deserves it. Once you finish the questionnaire, you will then be able to read your personality profile online. Perfectmatch.com’s system will also immediately begin searching to find compatible love matches for you, using its ‘Compatibility Matching System.’ Initially, the system may return just a few matches or it may return 40+ or so, depending on your specific personality profile. Also, keep in mind that you may not even get any compatibility matches for a couple of days or even up to a few weeks. So to be safe, you shouldn’t be expecting multitudes of results right away. However, once you do get the matches, they should theoretically be as closely matched to your unique personality type as possible. Now once you do begin receiving your potential perfect matches, you can then start viewing the profiles of your love matches, and decide whether you want to initiate contact with them or not. If you do decide you want to contact them, you must then upgrade to be a paid-up member of PerfectMatch.com to proceed. The other person you are attempting to contact must also be a paid member as well. Contacting your potential mate can be done in one of two ways: you can use the ‘Guided Communication Process’ to initially break the ice, or jump straight to the ‘Fast Track’ system and just directly contact them right away. Perfectmatch recommends that you start with the ‘Guided Communication System,’ which is another set of Questions & Answer’s between you and your potential match, to determine your compatibility. Opting for the ‘Fast Track’ system allows you to just bypass the foreplay and contact them directly, ASAP. With all the Q and A’s, the “Guided Communication System”, PerfectMatch is obviously not for someone who is looking for a quickie date this Friday. Perfectmatch.com is designed for those ready to settle down and finding a compatible life partner, and not much else. Some may feel that all this scientific based approach to finding a partner, which involves hundreds of ‘who am I?, questions as well as the intense ‘3rd degree’ personality profiling is taking all the fun and mystique out of dating. For most, the best experience and enjoyment of that first date is discovering for yourself how the initial chemistry works out between yourselves. Because of this, most would prefer to do their own searching and matchmaking, rather than they relying on a computer algorithm to do it for them! On other dating sites, the fun is searching through 100’s of potential profiles who live in your immediate area, browsing through their photos, reading what they say about themselves or view them live on a video clip. You can do all this on most of the other dating sites, such as Match.com and numerous others. But PerfectMatch.com prefers to approach this a little differently, they replace first impressions with more of a in depth personality profile that determines your compatibility, which is based on 29 different criteria. PerfectMatch.com and its advanced matchmaking system make this site an excellent choice for anyone that’s serious enough about finding a long-term relationship, by completing the lengthy questionnaire process. As with eHarmony and Chemistry.com, PerfectMatch.com perhaps does not belong in the online dating category as it is more of a matchmaking site. Whatever your opinion is on PerfectMatch, this site is extremely popular for the love lorn crowd, and has had undeniable success at matching couples with each other. Who knows, you could be next, provided you are willing to be probed and prodded with the personality revealing questionnaire process, pay the membership fee of $59.95, and wait on pins and needles as a computer finds the perfect match for you. Click the link below to check out PerfectMatch for yourself, this site most definitely gives you quality instead of quantity regarding matches. Highlights of PerfectMatch.com: * Currently has over 15+ million registered members |











