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Lara


Lavalife: Where Singles Click!

Lavalife.com is another one of those premier, popular online dating sites offering a free membership and more. This site has been around for a while as it was originally launched back in 1997. As this dating membership format originated in Canada, it is extremely popular amongst Canadians, as it is also available in French as well. But with their recent publicity campaign, this popular site has grown in popularity in many other countries including: the USA, the UK as well as France. Lavalife is one of the big boys out there, as they currently have an impressive 15 million membership database, making it one of the larger and more popular online dating sites available.

One of the unique features of Lavalife.com is that the site is conveniently split into three distinct sections:
1.) the first section is for casual dating;
2.) the second area is for relationships;
3.) and the third section is for intimate encounters;

As a member, you will be able to search for a date in all three separate sections, depending on your mood. It also allows you to post completely different profiles of yourself in each of the sections as well, making each profile uniquely specific for that section.

So this means that Lavalife.com essentially has three dating sites in one! When you do a search, you will find that the “Intimate Encounters” section will usually have a more steamier profile than a profile under the “Relationships Section, although its still the same person! So on Lavalife, whatever kind of date you are looking for, whatever your mood, Lavalife.com will have it all.

Another excellent feature of Lavalife is the generous amount of access that they give you as a free member. Most other online dating sites only allow limited access for their free members, such as limited profile views or limited search functions, limited email capabilities etc. But with a Free membership with Lavalife, you will receive full unrestricted access to the entire site!

As a free member, the search function allows you to find other members living within a mile of your location, you can also read the complete profiles of other members and as many as you like - without any restrictions. You also have the ability to send and receive smileys, view member pictures as well as videos, and reply back and forth via email!

Being able to reply to emails, you will find is a scarce function on most of the other dating sites out there, until you upgrade to a full membership, well not with Lavalife. So this is great news if you happen to have a ‘hot’ pic or profile of yourself, as you will get unlimited emails based just on that, all while you’re still a free member. The email as a free member function itself will vastly increase the odds of you getting plenty of replies to the emails you send out, and greatly increases chances of you finding a date on Lavalife.com!

Lavalife on other dating review sites is constantly rated as one of the best online dating sites available, based on its easy functional layout and the features that you receive as a free member. One complaint we came across was that at one time in the past, Lavalife had a complicated credit system for its paid members. This was based on buying credits by emailing their friends to join, and receiving ‘membership credits’ based on every email sent out. This however is no longer the case, as they have adopted a straight credit card subscription payment system, which is also competitively priced.

As there is a lot going for Lavalife.com, everything that you would need in a functional dating site, however it isn’t quite perfect. Just to list a few: Lavalife does not have a chat board system, a personality profile test, online blogs or social networking features of any kind. So if all you are interested in doing is just finding a date, then the lack of all those extras may not bother you, but if you want to fully immerse yourself into Lavalife’s online community, then this site is lacking in those areas. One other feature not available on Lavalife, but available on some other sites is a function where you can see if any other members have added you to their hot-list.

The best thing about Lavalife is its free to join, and as stated, the free membership allows you unrestricted access to virtually every part of the site. So you would be fool not to just sign-up for the free membership, and at least look around the site, see how it works and of course check out the other members and converse with them. Click the link below and visit Lavalife.com, Search for local singles

Highlights of Lavalife.com:

* Currently has over 15+ million registered members
* There are over 9000 new members daily!
* Has three distinct dating areas - casual dating, for relationships, and intimate encounters. Allows you to set up a different profile in each section, Lavalife effectively offers 3 dating sites in one!
* View members’ profiles, including pics and videos as a free member
* Post your own profile pic and upload other pics to create a backstage photo gallery
* Send smileys to other members to tell them your interested (must be registered as a free member)
* Send and receive e-mails to other members (must be registered as a premium member)
* Free members can reply to any emails sent to them, but cannot initiate email contact themselves. Majority of other dating sites don’t provide this
* See when a member you like was last online… as a free member
* You can search for other members within a one mile of where you currently live!
* Create a ‘hotlist’ of other members you like
* Instant message (IM) other members
* Available in French
* Available on your mobile (WAP), get free text alerts!
* Lavalife Notes - an online ezine that’s sent to you via email, has articles, advice, stories, tips etc.
* Offers excellent tech support


Lavalife: Where Singles Click!

Lara

Date.com, well just the name really says it all doesn’t it? This obviously is one of the premier domain names for operating an online dating site. This site was originally launched in 1998, and then did a bit of restructuring and re-launched on February 14th, 2000. Date.com is not as big as the other sites, but now has over 2.5 million members, and claimed responsibility for more than 80 marriages last year! Date.com is one of those sites that has a fairly even ratio of member demographics: female members at 45% and male member at 55%. This is a good sign, as a lot of the other dating sites have a more male orientated presence, some reaching as high as 65 to 70%. So this is great for any of the guys who are thinking of finding a date by joining Date.com.

Date.com comes with all the usual bells and whistles and great features that you would expect from a major online dating site. One feature however that is not available is for free members to be able to reply via email to other members, even if you received that email from another member. So if you’re in the free member mode, some admirer sends you an email message, if you want to answer back, you will have to register to become a member yourself. Other dating sites (well, some of them), allow their free members to correspond to the e-mails they’re sent. So not being able to do this on Date.com can be a bit of a hindrance when finding a date, as some free members just can’t afford to upgrade. Also members who sent the email will not get a reply back as they have no idea whether that person is a member or not. If you like the presentation of Date.com, you may also want to check out Matchmaker.com, which is operated by the same online company. The sites are similar, however, Matchmaker does allow it’s free members to reply to their emails!

One great feature offered by Date.com is their vibrant chat rooms, which is always actively buzzing with excitement. These chat rooms are divided into different groups based on: hobbies, geographical location, likes and dislikes, etc. If you don’t like any of the chat rooms available, heck, then you can start your own and see who you can attract. As a paid member you can also use private chat rooms with any other member that interests you by just double-clicking on their user-name on the menu. This will instantly pop open a new window so you can converse in real time with each other privately, can’t get anymore romantic than that, right?

When you first arrive at the Date.com site, it appears that you can’t browse their site to see if there’s anyone local in your area that you can view before registering as a free member. But that’s not so, near the bottom of the site, there are links marked “Personals” and “Dating”. The “Personals’ link goes to a page where you can browse through member profiles either by State or Province (in the US and Canada only) and the ‘Dating’ link leads to a page where you will be able to view member profiles by major cities (in the US and Canada, the UK and Europe). You can also filter out these profiles by gender, but not age. This will at the very least give you some idea of who’s available online in your immediate area before you sign-up as a free member! Why Date.com has decided to locate these links in those areas, is a good question.

When you eventually join as a member on Date.com, it also gives you access to their web ezine located at Date.info. This is full of useful information, tips and love advice for anyone interested in online dating. There is advice on creating a great jaw dropping profile that will attract attention, to advice on making a fantastic unforgettable first impression when emailing someone you like for the very first time. Unlike the online ezines that are available from other dating sites, Date.info is actually interesting and informative to read. There are contributions from other members where you can read their diary of all their successes, as well as failures, to relevant articles and tips from those professionals active in the online dating scene. A copy of Date.info’s weekly e-zine is sent to you via e-mail, unless of course you choose not to receive it. Those members of Matchmaker.com will also have access to Date.info’s ezine.

Join today, It’s free to set up your profile and perform searches for that partner on Date.com, so give it a whirl!

Highlights of Date.com:

* Over 2.5 million active registered members
* 250,000+ new member sign-ups every month
* Launched a new subscription-based dating service on Valentine’s Day 2000
* Create a free profile when you sign-up, comprises of multiple choice questions and one long essay-style question
* Record and post your own video or audio greeting (for premium members only)
* Internal email system to email other members (for premium members only)
* Stats to let you how often your personal profile was viewed, how often your photos were viewed, etc.
* See when a member you are following was last online - for stalkers lol.
* Advance search function - search members regionally or based on up to 100 keyword characteristics of their profile.
* Keyword searches - search other members’ profiles based on keyword.
* Instant Messenger (IM) available (for premium members only)
* Flirt with other members that interests you by sending them an “I’m Interested” message

Lara


What does the length of your finger say? 300x250

Chemistry.com is a popular online dating and matchmaking site that can be best compared to eHarmony. The site relies on various predetermined matchmaking algorithms as well as compatibility principles which were originally developed by eHarmony.com. Chemistry.com however has an additional feature they call: ‘Personality (or chemistry) Matching.’ Because of this additional and advanced ‘chemistry’ matchmaking feature, some consider Chemistry.com to be superior to eHarmony in the features ratings!

So like other similar online dating sites such as PerfectMatch.com and eHarmony.com, Chemistry.com does not allow members to browse or read the other members profiles on their site. Instead, Chemistry.com, prefers to do the matchmaking for you, this based on an intensive personality questionnaire that you are required to complete when you join. The Chemistry.com questionnaire contains 100’s of multiple choice questions, all designed to analyze your personality, likes, wants and needs etc.

Completing this lengthy questionnaire at times may feel like you are applying for a job somewhere, as most of the questions require a bit of thought and effort. Since most members are just looking for a partner, it may turn off some people due to its length and intensity. But for those who stick with the process and take their love life seriously enough, they will be more than happy to put forth the effort in completing the questionnaire.

So once it’s completed, with of course as much accurate detail as possible, the Chemistry.com system will search for those who are only intently serious about finding a long term relationship. Chemistry.com is in the business of connecting people ‘long-term’ and not just someone looking for a one night fling.

Chemistry.com will analyze the results of your answers and will categorize you into a personality type. They will assign you both a minor as well as a major personality bracket from one of the following 4 profiles: builder, director, explorer or negotiator. The system will then try to find you a suitable love match based on your specific personality type, and your wish-list (the features that you asked for in a potential partner), which was part of the questionnaire.

Chemistry.com will send you up to 5 potential matches, based on your profile. Although five matches may not seem that much to you, keep in mind that these matches are picked to be the best well-suited match for you, based on your personality type and you to them. Chemistry.com chooses to deal on quality and not quantity.

When you find a potential match that you want to contact, you can easily do so using their ‘Guided Communications System,’ which is a series of additional questions and answers that you will both choose to ask each other. If you think that there’s some chemistry there, then the next step is to submit a ‘First-Meeting’ request. This is basically just a request to meet with that person. So if you are accepted, you can both arrange to meet somewhere at a specific time directly through the Chemistry.com website. All this can be done without the need to swap phone numbers, IM’s or e-mails. This is great for those concerned about keeping their privacy as well as anonymity right up until you meet that person. After your first initial date, Chemistry.com will then ask for feedback from both of you regarding the date. If both your feedback’s are positive, then Chemistry.com will let both of you know how you can arrange to meet again if you want. If not, Chemistry.com’s matchmaking system evaluates from its mistake of hooking you both up and will attempt to find a better match next time around!

You Must Be Serious
Because of the intensive detailed questionnaire you are required to fill out, Chemistry.com is a site for those who are really serious about finding that perfect long term relationship. If you are just looking for a fling or a bit of casual fun, then Chemistry.com may not be for you. There are other sites for this purpose. But if haven’t had much luck in the love and dating department lately, or if you’re shy, or worried that you may be getting on in years and need to settle down, then Chemistry.com may be exactly what you’re looking for.

You can sign-up for free with Chemistry.com and start receiving the daily matches free of charge as well. You will be required to pay however when you want to or are ready to make contact with another member on the site, or you want to reply to someone. Keep in mind that when you contact another Chemistry.com member, that person must also have an upgraded paid membership as well in order for them to reply to you. If that person is interested in your profile, chances are they will decide to upgrade anyways, and if not, keep looking.

Chemistry.com has a 7-day free trial as well. If you find someone you want to contact, then you can upgrade your membership for free for the first 7 days. You can also cancel at any time within this period. Your card will be billed if you have not canceled within the 7 day period. So you have nothing to lose!

So because of the lengthy registration process and since you are not allowed to search for other members yourselves, this may potentially turn off a few people from joining Chemistry.com. Keep in mind that this site is one of the most advanced online matchmaking sites available, and is geared towards those members who are serious about making a long term commitment. Based on this, Chemistry.com really isn’t a dating site but rather a matchmaking site. As there are a lot more dating sites choosing to offer automated matchmaking, the difference between the two has become increasingly blurred, and should may be be placed together in one category.

Chemistry.com, like other sites, has a Meet-in-Person Promise, which promises you that they will provide at least 3 matches in the first 3 months, if not, they will give you an additional 3 months for free! Click the button below to check out Chemistry.com for yourself and sign-up for free today…

Take your FREE personality test and receive your Chemistry-inspired matches today!

Highlights Of Chemistry.com:
* Chemistry.com has approximately 12 million registered members and growing
* A FREE 7-day trial!
* Online matches based on the scientific methods developed by Dr. Helen Fisher
* Chemistry.com is operated by Match.com
* The dating program with Chemistry.com is split into 4 parts:
1.) You: Chemistry.com’s extensive personality profile questionnaire will determine your personality profile, likes, dislikes, goals etc.
2.) Matching: Once Chemistry.com knows your personality profile, they will send you up to five free potential matches. They are based on scientific principles on what creates a powerful attraction between two people
3.) Email: Chemistry.com’s system, the ‘Guided Communications Process’ allows you to get past the awkwardness of ‘Breaking The Ice’, it will allow you to know if there’s some basis to move forward, or move apart
4.) Dating: The reason why you joined right? See if the chemistry is there. If so, the folks at Chemistry.com will cheer for your success, If not, then they want to know why it fizzled and the Chemistry.com system adapts
* The initial profile questionnaire that determines your personality type is extensive and intense and it requires some time to complete
* After completion of the personality profile is when the fun starts. Chemistry.com will analyze your results and then send you up to around 5 chemistry matches a day. You do not have access to search for matches yourself - this all done for you
* Once you upgrade to a premium membership, you can contact with one or all of the matches that Chemistry.com sends you
* If you think that there’s potential, fireworks and chemistry there, then you can send a ‘First-Meeting’ request and schedule to meet, using Chemistry.com’s scheduling system. You can then agree to set a place and time suitable for both of you. All this without exchanging personal e-mail addresses or phone numbers


3 Months for the Price of 1

Lara


Yahoo! Personals

Yahoo! Personals is an extremely popular online dating site operated by Yahoo, the world’s second largest search engine! As it is a reliable trusted brand name, Yahoo! Personals has managed to attract over 11 million members to its dating site since it was launched in 1997. The break down of male/female demographics in their database breaks down as follows: 36% female and 64% male, with a higher than average age group of 39, it’s also suitable for a more mature crowd.

Yahoo Personals presently offers 3 subscription plans which are very competitive. They offer a… 1, 3 or 6 month paid plan. All three plans come with a 7day trial which is free. During the free trial, you will get the following:
(1) You can create your own personal profile
(2) You can perform a members search
(3) You can converse with other members that you are interested in by using the Free ice-breaker message service

If you like the 7-day trial and decide to become a paid subscriber, you’ll get two additional tools to work with:
(4) The ability to send emails and
(5) Send IM, instant messages

You have the option to cancel your membership at any time during your 7 day trial, and your credit card will not be billed. If you decide to keep your membership, you’ll be automatically transferred and billed to the monthly subscription package you chose.

One of the best features offered by Yahoo Personals is as a free member, you can pick from 16 different ice-breaker messages to someone that interests you. These pre-written messages, which are one-liners, are a bit more expressive and forward than just a friendly wink or smile, which is all you are allowed on other free trial dating sites.

These one line ice-breakers include simple but effective messages such as: “Hi!, How are you?” to “Hey, Want to grab a coffee?”, “Don’t you think we have a lot in common?”, “I read each and every word of your profile, and I’m rather intrigued, so let’s chat” or “Where is your favorite place to hang out?”. This is a lot better than just sending a simple wink.

Yahoo! Personals has also recently added a couple new features for added peace of mind: a 5-Star Safety Program and a 6-Month promise.

The 5-star safety program enforces their safety-first conscious attitude:
It Offers You:
1. Controlled Privacy for Members:
* Members can choose if they want to share their last name, their personal email, or personal contact information with other members. Members also have the option of making their profiles private, block out selected members, and the ability to exclude members permanently from their new searches.
2. Profile Screening:
* All new profiles are checked to comply with Yahoo’s ‘Terms of Service’ and their Member Guidelines. The Customer Care department reviews individual profiles and takes action against any of the profiles that are deemed to violate any guidelines.
3. Mandatory Membership:
* After their initial profile view, all non-members are then required to join, and accept Yahoo’s ‘Terms of Service’, and post their own profiles before proceeding.
4. Yahoo Community Reporting:
* If you have any concerns, you’re strongly encouraged to report it to Yahoo’s “report concern” link. They take these concerns seriously and will deactivate accounts of offending members.
5. Yahoo Members Education:
* Yahoo! Personals encourages that the members follow the advice on how to date safely online, without harming your chances of finding romance.

The 6-Month guarantee, guarantees that if you don’t find that someone special by the end of the six-month membership subscription, they will give you another six months at no cost. This is based on some eligibility criteria, which is clearly stated on the Yahoo! Personals site. Eligibility includes: posting an approved searchable personal profile, as well as a primary photo and your communication with at least 5 different members each month. You will be updated on your membership status by Yahoo! Personals via monthly emails. The reminders are important if you decide to apply for the 6-month promise, and must be done 10-days before your subscription renews. If you are eligible for the 6-Month Promise program, you must use it immediately, right after your original paid six-month subscription ends.

One of the downsides we found regarding Yahoo! Personals was a lack of a ‘chat room’, or forums on their site. Many of the other online dating sites include these features to create a vibrant online members community. Hopefully, Yahoo Personals will soon include these types of features at some point. There are also a lot of advertising on the site, from sponsors to banner ads. This however does not intrude on the navigation of the members site that much.

Yahoo! Personals UK version is powered by Match.com, which is also the UK’s No. 1 rated online dating site by many - as well as being the No. 1 rated US dating site!

The Yahoo! Personals site is very concise and thus extremely impressive. Although it’s not entirely perfect, but which dating site is? If you feel comfortable with a trusted online brand name, such as Yahoo, and like that they have over 11 million members online, as well as a free 7-day trial, you would be in good company to join, and check out who else is in your immediate area! Click Here Meet men at Yahoo! Personals

Highlights Of Yahoo! Personals

* Has a Free 7-day trial!
* Quick as well as easy setting up a free profile.
* Yahoo’s 5 star safety program:
o Privacy controlled membership
o Profile screening
o Membership is mandatory
o Community Reporting Program
o Membership Education
* The 6-month promise: if you don’t find someone by the end of your 6 month subscription, Yahoo! Personals will give you another 6months for free. Based on eligibility.
* Over 11 million registered members.
* Over 14 different sites worldwide in a variety of languages
* Use Yahoo! ID to create your profile
* Upload 10 photos, in multiple file formats
* Add funny captions to your pictures
* Browse other members full profiles in detail, view member photos as a free member
* Advanced search, allows you to search profiles by keyword. After all, it’s Yahoo!
* Search to within 1 mile of your zip or postal code
* Save your searches
* Send ice-breaker messages for free
* Send emails using the built-in email tool
* Record and/or view personalized video or voice greetings - you can also add to your profile
* A “View Similar Profiles” members feature
* Instant messaging IM tool to send instant messages
* Find out when a member was last logged in
* Sort search by when members were last logged in
* SmartFit matching program to help you find your best love match
* Potential matches sent to you by email
* Block unwanted members from contacting you
* See who has viewed your profile


Yahoo! Personals

Lara


6 month guarantee - Match.com

Match.com is one of the ‘big boys’ of online internet dating sites available today. It has established itself as one of the premier, as well as the longest running match making sites around, so much so, that Match.com has over an amazing 24 million members, and counting. It also has an equal number of women and men members on the site, making it likely that you will find the perfect local love match living in your area, regardless of where you live. Match.com is so sure of this that, if after the first six (6) months of you joining and still no luck finding someone, they will offer you another 6 months for free! Match.com claims that last year alone, over 450,000 people hooked up and found a love connection they can call their own. Could you be the next happy one?
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Once inside the Match.com membership, it features the famous Dr Phil of TV fame, and his MindFindBind Program. This program will teach you a more realistic approach to real life dating. MindFindBind consists of a 3-step program, featuring videos and audio to deliver his best tips as well as techniques, not only to assist you in finding your ideal match, but to help you in discovering what type of partner that would best suit you.

If you are going to look for something or someone, you have to know what you are looking for first, right? Dr. Phil’s Program, MindFindBind helps you with this, as well as helping you to better understanding yourself, which is the key first step in being successful with a member of the opposite sex.

MindFindBind is exclusive to Match.com, and will give you, as a subscriber full access to this action-oriented, dating and relationship program and insights by Dr. Phil himeslf. MindFindBind is an online based program that educates singles about dating and relationships. It features more than 50 online videos with Dr. Phil, that aims to enlighten and inspire you with interactive workshops designed to be a lot of fun, rather than work. There is also audio features providing insightful dating tips, techniques, ‘do’s and don’ts’ etc. You as a member can go through the program at your own pace, privately at home.

The MindFindBind Program by Dr Phil has 3-steps…

* The Mind phase, where members complete a comprehensive, candid self-evaluation of themselves, the results revealing how they can create a dating action plan.
* The Find phase, provides encouragement and suggestions about topics including effective communication, making great first impressions, meaningful, stimulating conversations while on a first date, and how to move that relationship to the next step.
* Once you have met someone, the Bind phase of the process helps you to grow your new relationship in a healthy, rewarding direction. Through the MindFindBind program, there are additional workbook and self-evaluation tools you can follow. These programs are designed so that you can create long term successful relationships and also offers tips on working through the rough patches that are present in any new relationship.

Along with Dr. Phil’s program and advice, you can also take advantage of the enormous members’ database. If you have had problems in the past finding or keeping dates, Dr. Phil’s online advice maybe what you need to help you find someone and turn your life around!

Whether you choose to include Dr Phil’s program in your membership, Match.com has plenty of other features in helping you find your perfect match. One great feature is the two-way mutual search function, which when queried, returns members who you will have mutual compatibility with. This is based on your geographical location search and your compatibility level based solely on your personality profile, as well as what you are both looking for in the opposite sex etc.

For example, does your personality traits have what other members may be looking for in a partner? Does any other members have the same personality traits that you are looking for? If so, and that person lives within your geographical search area, then that member will be featured using the two-way search. As Match.com has over 24 million members, this is a great way to narrowing down the number of potential prospects that are returned as part of your search, allowing you to focus attention on dates that you have the most in common with.

One great feature is you can view an entire members profile without paying up front first, (on some other dating sites, you’ll usually have to upgrade to view another member’s profile in full). Another great feature is ‘matchWords’, which is a keyword based search, which allows you to search for other members’ profiles using particular keywords or phrases. This is a great way to find members who has the same hobbies or interests that you do.

Match.com is truly one of the superstar sites of online dating! With over 24 million members and growing in over 250 countries, spanning over 6 continents and in 12 different languages, match.com’s online dating site doesn’t get much bigger! This site has been around for over 11 years, and it really shows. It has an user friendly, refined user interface, excellent expert tips as well as great advice, along with a slick, polished layout and the largest database of members of any other competing site! The cost of the premium membership is also competitively priced, as compared to other smaller dating sites. Click on the link below to visit Match.com, complete the free profile process and sign up today…

Highlights of Match.com:

* Match.com has the largest members database of any online dating site - with over 24 million members and growing, so find someone in your area!
* FREE Portrait Toolkit - A new feature on Match.com is the Voyeur Guide Receive advice from Jay Manuel (as seen on the TV show Top Model.)
* “Happen” magazine. This mag cover advice, trends, opinions, love and dating scoops, sex tips articles and polls.
* MindFindBind, a 3-step program from TV show host Dr. Phil.
* Make Love Happen Guarantee - If you don’t find someone during the first 6-months, Match.com will give you 6 months at no cost to you!
* Total Attraction Matching system, incorporates a personality-profiling tool and a physical attraction test.
* Wink at other Match.com members online for initial interest
* E-mail members using the Match.coms e-mail tool.
* Check to see other members and when they were last online - this feature helps you spend your online time wisely.
* Narrow your search to within a mile of your current location, allowing you to find local matches in your immediate neighborhood.


View Photos of Singles at Match.com

Lara

What can you really say about eHarmony.com that hasn’t been said before? eHarmony is the prefered choice of many who are ready to settle down, as it is not quite your typical online dating site! When you visit and eventually decide to join eHarmony, the first thing that you’ll notice is the site is divided into two sections: one for singles looking for a date or god forbid, love and a second section for those who are married. The singles section helps you find that perfect match - not just necessarily a date - but your perfect soul-mate in life, which is obviously not an easy feat! eHarmony’s married section is there to help strengthen your existing relationship and marriage with your spouse. This review will primarily focus on the ‘Singles’ section of the eHarmony site. Yes, the section that promises you will find your perfect match in life!

As mentioned, eHarmony differs a little from almost every other online dating site, as it won’t allow you to search the extensive members’ database yourself, regardless if you have a Free or a fully paid membership! You are probably thinking what’s the point then? But how eHarmony works is they like to do the searching and the matchmaking on your behalf. When you first join eHarmony, you’ll be asked to complete a rather lengthy set of personal questions. This questionnaire isn’t quite like the other online dating sites, the eharmony questionnaire is quite long… well very long! There are a total of 436 questions you are asked to answer as accurate as possible, which are based on 29 different criteria. Criteria which includes: your values, religion and spiritual beliefs, character, passions, sensitivity, level of education, intelligence level, sex and it goes on and on from there. Many of these questions are based on an answer scale from 1 - 7 as described below.

Depending on the amount of time and thought that you put into each question, the questionnaire can take up to 2 to 3 hours to complete - so grab a cup of java and find a comfy chair! We suggest that you think carefully before answering each question, as the system does not allow you to go back and change your original answer later. But keep in mind, this is not rocket science, the first answer that usually pops into your head is generally the right one, so there’s no point in second guessing yourself. As it is lengthy, you are able to save your questionnaire at any point in time and then return to finish it later, no need to complete it all in one sitting.

As soon as you’re finished the questionnaire, you will then be able to view your specific personality profile. A lot of the eHarmony members has indicated that this extensive questionnaire process really does produce a very precise profile of their personality. Once your profile is complete, the eharmony system will immediately begin finding a compatible match or matches for you, using its ‘Compatibility Matching System.’ Once the matching is completed, it may just return a handful of suitable matches or it may return a 100 or so, based depending on your specific personality profile and the matches it has found. Also, keep in mind that you may not receive any matches for a couple days of even up to a few weeks, so don’t expect results right away. The matches that you do get however, should be a close a match to your personality type as possible.

Once these love matches are sent to you, you’ll then be able to view that person’s profile, and immediately decide whether you want to initiate contact with them or not. If you want to contact them, you will then have to be a paid member/subscriber of eHarmony. Also, in order to reply, the receiving person must also be a fully paid-up ehamony member as well. You can contact your potential love match in one of two ways: by using the online ‘Guided Communication Process’ just to break the ice, or go direct, using the ‘Fast Track’ system and immediately contact them right away. eHarmony recommends you use the Guided Communication System, so you can go for another set of Questions and Answer’s between you and your potential match, which involves the following:

* Both of you choose a set of 5 multiple-choice questions for the other person to answer;
* You both are required to complete a list of “must have’s” as well as a list of “must have not’s”; and if you are both still okay with that list, then
* You are both required to ask any 3 open ended questions you have for each other.

On the other hand, the ‘Fast Track’ system allows you to bypass all this foreplay and contact your match immediately.

With all these Q’s and A’s, and using the “Guided Communication System”, eHarmony is obviously not a solution for those looking for a quick date on Friday, or a casual fling or just for fun. It’s for those who are looking to find a permanent life partner, and nothing less. eHarmony also only caters to relationships of the opposite sex, just between men and women. One of eHarmony’s key demographic profiling is for conservative Christians.

Some may think that all this advanced scientific profiling to dating, based upon 100’s and 100’s of questions is taking all the fun out of the dating process. Part of dating should be discovering for yourself and each other on how well matched you are on a one on one, face to face meeting. For this reason, most would just rather do their own search and matchmaking, rather than relying on a computer algorithm to do it for them!

The fun of online dating is you being able to search through thousands of profiles of potential matches in your immediate area, or quickly browsing through their photos, reading their profiles and even watching a live video of them. Then, if you like, you can instantly strike up a conversation with them, or email or IM them, and possibly meet up for a date. This is possible on other online dating sites, such as Match.com. But eHarmony.com is popular because it works, it’s built in algorithm determines your compatibility, which is based on 29 different personality criteria! So even if you like someones physical appearance, the personalities may not match.

So what makes this site unique is that you can’t do you own searches on eHarmony.com. So its more suitable for someone who’s serious enough about finding a long-term relationship, by completing the registration questionnaire and leaving it it in the hands of eHarmony. Because of this, eHarmony.com can’t really be considered a true matchmaking or dating site. However, there are with more and more online dating sites offering automatic matchmaking such as eHarmony. So if you are looking for an advanced, almost scientific matchmaking service, eHarmony may be for you.

eHarmony’s track record and success at matching couples with each another just cannot be ignored. They presently have over 12+ million members worldwide, most reside in the US, Canada and the UK. They claim that 90 to 100 couples a day get married from their matching system! So you could possibly be next? Well, if you’re willing to plow your way through the 400+ questionnaire, and then wait around for your perfect compatible match to be presented to you, then join.

Click below to check out eHarmony FREE for yourself, this is a site that most definitely gives you a quantity of perfect personality matches.

Highlights of eHarmony.com:

* There are currently over 12 million registered members
* 12,000 to 18,000 new signups every day
* Over a 100 marriages every day, as a result of those joining eHarmony!
* eHarmony is a matchmaking site, rather than a dating site. You fill out a long detailed questionnaire and they will find the perfect match for you. You do not have the option of searching the members’ database yourself!
* A detailed ‘Compatibility Matching System’ - The initial, extensive 400+ questions questionnaire is based on 29 different criteria
* eHarmony was developed by Dr. Neil Clark Warren, a expert in relationships with over 35 years experience.
* Once eHarmony returns matches for you, you can use the guided communication system, comprising of more detailed questions and answers, or you can proceed straight to a Fast Track mode
* Most subscription packages includes a match guarantee
* You are not required to pay until a perfect match is found, and you want and are ready to communicate with that other person
* eHarmony has more female members than male
* Only partners of the opposite sex are available
* Recommended for serious, long term relationships only - not for casual dating!

Lara

There are fabulous ways that you can express love to your partner, other than just saying the words “I Love You.” The fire usually burns out a little in relationships after a short while, and that feeling of your heart pounding with excitement of being with your significant other is not always felt nearly as often, or even at all.

So, how do you get back that passion, that love, that warm and fuzzy feeling that wraps around you, and penetrates your thoughts like at the beginning of each and every new relationship?

Many will say that ‘Actions Speak Louder Than Words’, so below we have listed the top 5 secrets of seduction to help you show your partner how much you still truly love them:

1. Flirt
This is a friendly light-hearted seduction gesture with the intent of conveying love! Why not send a naughty, sexy email or text message while you are still at work? This reminds your partner that you are thinking about him or her. It also increases intensity, so that you actually look forward to seeing each other next time you see them.

2. Candles

According to ancient Chinese Feng Shui, the color of the seduction candle is red, and the ingredients are pine, musk, patchouli, cedar or juniper. Candles can put the romance back in your relationships. So why not fill your bedroom with scented candles, turn off or dim the lights, just to relax in each others arms? The extra effort will go a long way!

3. Food
You’re mom has always said “The Way To a Man’s Heart Is Through His Stomach,” this however is also the secret of successfully seducing of women as well. Show the love of your life by surprising them with a romantic dinner for two. Add some flowers, a bit of soft music, incense and candles to create a seductive love nest. Prepare aphrodisiac type of foods such as: chili, oysters, chocolate, honey, figs, and walnuts, all said to aid in the stimulation of love hormones.

4. Love Letters and Poems
Leave some type of love note for your partner. You can post this this in the bedroom, kitchen or bathroom before you leave for work. You can also leave a nice love poem say under the pillow so that your love finds this at night, right before bedtime or the first thing in the morning. Send a personal hand written love letter and send it to their work address. This will stir up the proper feelings of love in the privacy of your bedroom. Inspiration for these notes can be taken from music or love poem books.

5. Try To Get Away
There are obviously a lot of distractions in your relationship, such as children or work. You can plan a short vacation for the weekend or even just for the day. Arrange a nice trip to the Spa or a Hotel by the ocean, so that both of you are in a completely different environment than you usually are, where you both can relax and concentrate on each other.

Using these five secrets shows your significant other just how much you really truly love them, and guaranteed to spice up your love life, strengthen your relationship, and keep yourselves happy for years to come!